Twin Flame

[jim78]

Does anyone have any experiance on this issue please?

I have never been in this situation, however. There are always options - always! If that guy is threatening to her in the way you said it, then she needs to get out. There are always options, maybe not obvious but they are there. Without much info, i cant say more....

Originally Posted by jim78

That is precisely why I struggle with the notion that her sociopath is a karmic necessity to our growth. His behaviour is in contradiction to all that is good and pure about the spirit. We are both ready to be together but our physical seperation is down to someone else who has power in the material world. It's like our spirits want to soar but they are being constantly being pulled back by an individual without spirit. I find it hard to see the situation as being part of a divine plan.

Ever consider the lesson and growth is for HIM and not her? Also I can see many lessons one can gain from an abusive relationship. Maybe her first lesson is to put her own needs and self love above his wants and to walk away from this relationship. She fails to do that by going back over and over and thus hasn't learned the lesson required for this guy to finally disapear.

[jim78]

Originally Posted by BeautifulLife

Ever consider the lesson and growth is for HIM and not her? Also I can see many lessons one can gain from an abusive relationship. Maybe her first lesson is to put her own needs and self love above his wants and to walk away from this relationship. She fails to do that by going back over and over and thus hasn't learned the lesson required for this guy to finally disapear.

Perhaps, the thing is though he is old and from my research on NPD it seems that they are extremely unlikely to internalise and learn lessons or change. It is far too dangerous for her to leave him. She tried and came very close to being killed. That's when I intervened. She is going gangbusters in other areas of her life now and is merely paying lip service to his need to protect his public image in order to have the freedom to pursue her own needs etc. Still I wish she would let me within spitting distance of him. I would resolve this situation very quickly. If she could leave she would. He is a rapist and an abuser with a lot of money and power to cower behind. The only thing protecting her is what I am doing.

[jim78]

Reading this again I can't believe how much my life has changed since I created this topic.

[RedEmbers]

Originally Posted by jim78

Reading this again I can't believe how much my life has changed since I created this topic.

You are brave to read your old posts

I wouldn't even dare to read mine hahaha... I know that my beliefs are very different now, still the same me, just with vastly different perspectives.

[MysticalShaman]

Originally Posted by jim78

Reading this again I can't believe how much my life has changed since I created this topic.

ohhh...update! i'm too scared to read mine hahaha but i'll try lol