Sorry, it took me so long to reply to this, somehow it slipped through.
Mothwing,
Thanks for your kindness - it means a lot to me!
Time,
You bring up a good point - about conflict, which I'm conflicted about, lol.
Seriously, I feel like I'm going into no-man's land... Every time my husband & I get into an argument about religion, he has the church, most of our family & friends are lds, articles of faith (which tell exactly what "we believe") etc - all to fall back on.
What do I have to fall back on? You guys here on this forum (who I'm so greatful for!) - but we're all trying to find our own way. Nobody's telling us what to believe, well, maybe they are, but it's like the tower of babel, lol.
I know & treasure spiritual experiences, guidance & "light bulb moments" - but sometimes I feel like I'm going into unmarked territory.
About kids... I'm doing the best I can - I know I'm not perfect, but I love my kids so much & want the very best for them! I don't want them to feel the shame & suicidal thoughts because they're not matching up to some ridiculous cultural/religious standard.
I mentioned this before, but up to 80% of mental illness are considered to have their root in misunderstandings of Judeo/Christian doctrines.
I want my kids to have friends, to be accepted & loved by extended family. Unfortunately, that depends on their activity in the church.
I do like that everyone gets involved in church - even kids pray & give little speeches on their own, or with a little help.
But I am trying to give them other perspectives. Infact, once, my son got up in front of the entire congregation & said into the microphone, "I know the bible stories aren't really true, but there's good stuff in there & we should read it." My face turned bright red, but at the same time I wanted to hug him & laugh!
Hybrid Mode
