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Originally Posted by ssdm1
Yes I feel this way. I am happy, independent and have every material thing I could want. But it does feel that being in a relationship with anyone is just not meant for me. I have had relationships and have dated, but only one relationship clicked.
When I was a child I met a boy who became my best friend, fell in love with him, had a relationship, then it ended and we did not stay in contact for 20 years. In 2016 he came back in my life and so did all the wonderful feelings. I was hoping my solitude was finally over. But he'd been dating someone and is now living with that woman. So yes I think for whatever reason I am just meant to be by myself.
I will admit having him back in my life and still not being able to be with him is horrible, but I have no desire at this stage of my life to actively search for someone. If through my work and volunteer work someone comes into my life then great. Otherwise, I am fine and content on my own. I know that sounds weird to some people.
Hope that helps.
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i went looking for the Tennyson quote about "'Tis better to have loved and lost
than never to have loved at all", and came across this psychology today article:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...have-loved-all
my sense of it is that those who've suffered inordinate stress over a broken
relationship had allowed themselves to become 'dependent' on it for their
sense of well-being. that would be like placing your own best interests
outside of yourself [in service to some "foreign agenda"].
in my opinion, for you to have "horrible" sensations due to the circumstances
you've experienced is an invitation for you to explore some aspect of your
being which you've neglected (leaving it to be maintained by someone else).
i believe that you might bring your own loving intentions into that space and
provide it with healing energy. imo: love is the answer to curing that ill; you
contain the love-energy required to restore health to your whole-being.