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Originally Posted by Beautywithin
So this year has been a big eye opener, i worked along side my TF (well that's what i thought he was at the time) and Best Friend, it was becoming difficult working there with my TF there so many ups and downs, my friend was having issues with her Love Life and she was becoming very snappy with me, i decided to leave that job as it was all making me really unhappy.
Fast forward 5 months and I've not heard a thing from my TF since i left that job, and lately my best friend has been very distant, we used to text every day, now she can go weeks without texting, if i text she just reply's simple one word answers. i obviously don't see her every day like i used to,
but i find it sad after years of friendship my TF and best friend just drop me like that.
throughout my life I've never had a friend who has stayed close for longer than a few years, Maybe i'm just not good enough, but i try my hardest to keep the people i care about in my life, i'd never just drop someone just because i don't see them on a daily basis.  |
Hi Beautywithin. This post caught my attention as I've had a series of friends throughout the years that came into my life, made significant impacts, then they walked away with never a word again. Sometimes I yearn for friendships with fellow females, but I no longer permit myself to even seek them out or let anyone get close to me. I suppose I'm protecting myself from the pain of feeling like I disappoint people after they initially are drawn to me and sometimes have a fascination fixation. I don't mean to sound like I'm on an ego trip, as I'm not. I'm just drawing from past real experiences.
I fondly remember each and every one of them and often ask myself, "What lessons did I learn while I was 'friends' with this individual?" I tend to attract people that ultimately end up judging me for my flaws. It seems like that has been the problem, letting people's image or imagined image of me down. I am a flawed person and I don't do well with negative people that turn negativity on me or judge me. I sometimes was the one that broke off friendships for this reason.
I'm fortunate to have a spouse as my best friend. He has been the only constant in my life.
Friends will come and go throughout ones lifetime. Some will be intense, some will be dysfunctional, some will be obsessive and some will simply mirror the other. There is nothing wrong with you. I wouldn't think that you are 'causing' these friends to leave. People change and have different needs and expectations out of friends. It's a delicate dance. Some come into ones life simply to spend just a short period teaching the other something unique to that particular friendship. If friends is what one desires, the law of attraction will bring them into ones environment. Essentially though, I feel it's important to just always be true to oneself, be genuine, be honest and forget judging others for their flaws as everyone has them.