Quote : 'you do not need him' <----i bet he feels this way and is very unhappy.

Quote : 'you need to be able to be happy enough to spend time and give your all to your children and yourself and your life, instead of the stress of him ruining it all.' <----He helped make those children, does he not get some of 'her all' instead of being seen as the man that ruins it all? Before the children came she was his wife first.

Quote : 'or maybe even meet your real soul mate' <---Yes different man yet same skirt. The same issues will still prop up.

It takes work if you want it. There is no 'cure man' aka 'real' soul mate. a man is a man plain and simple and if they are loved, fed and appreciated you will see and get that back tenfold. What you put in you get back. Its not just about what YOU get but what you give. Men will show their love by action.