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Originally Posted by Colorado
It wouldn’t matter if it was a past life, or this life....the past, present and future are all simultaneous anyways.
The problem is when it first started. You reacted in a defensive manner, and started operating from a place of fear. It could’ve been from your parents, a close friend, peers, ect. Wherever it started, it has grown and compounded the negative energy in and around you. You said it yourself, you attract them..because the fear and betrayal you live in, is attracting other like-energy.
You can’t live in walls, or fear....amd expect to be surrounded by love. That’s fairytale books and romantic movies. Real Life is much different.
You have to learn to take down the barriers, mistrust, hurt, anger, betrayal, and fear you live in....if you want to have happy, healthy people in your life.
You need to come from a place of acceptance, self love, honesty, trust, and common sense...when you let people in your life.
Like attracts like....
You might need counseling before you can learn how to deal with the negative relationships you have had. A lot of it starts with our relationship with our parents and family....then spreads out from there.
The first time our best friend betrays us, or the first time we are bullied, or rejected, or betrayed by a S.O.....amd you blame yourself. You get angry, and and hurt...and you carry that around until it builds up, and sabotages all your relationships. All that negativity...attracts other negative people, situations and reactions from others.
Some might even say, you are the evil one...because you have so much negative energy....but there is no evil...just ignorance. You need to heal yourself, and you need to find out how to do that, and what works for you. Good luck.
I can’t tell you how to do that, you are going to have to ask yourself what it is you need, amd younalso have to come from a place of nonjudgememt. Nobody is perefect, people are going to hurt you, even if they love you...but you have to determine what is acceptable and what you can forgive, and what you can’t. People who have a lot of friends, seem to have a higher tolerance for forgiveness, and don’t take things personally. They also have a lot more superficial friendships.
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Wow, colorado you are very wise; I read both of your posts in this thread. I've learned a lot from you, everything really resonated!
For me, I think it definitely was the feelings and beliefs from my past life that has attracted wrong in my life.
I'm currently trying to take care of that and tell myself, "You are not made less by how people treat you. You've always been love and light. You deserve better."
I found out recently my pattern of being attracted to men who are not on good terms with their lovers. When I come into their life, I just want to love them and comfort them, and I give them something to be happy about, but it's always not reciprocal.
Either I'm not enough for them or I'm just being used to make themselves better.
I can understand why when thinking of my past life. A mother believing I'm not good enough, criticising me constantly, and treating me like I'm someone made to be used and not cherished. Then, having a husband cheat on me with my best friend!
I'm attracted to men whose relationship with their lovers are rocky because I see my pain in them.
I need to heal my own pain.