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Originally Posted by Lorelyen
Many responses here from males seem rather glib to me. At least one really
isn't in contact with his emotions enough to know what it's like.
But it IS fair to say that females probably feel greater unease / danger when
they're being stalked, whether in their imagination or actual.
Presumably when a male is stalked (no doubt there are cases) is easier to
put a stop to it. Not so easy for females. Read the news reports:
You'll find many more cases of women murdered when stalking runs out of control
than men. I haven't actual statistics but my daily trawl through the news
suggests that's a fact.
So, men, you need to be stalked by someone more physically powerful than
yourself to appreciate what it's like.
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A lot of truth to this, sadly. I don't think we do generally give much thought to what it's like to be a member of the opposite sex, to the different challenges and experiences we face; a while back I got to thinking about what it must be like to be a woman, to be pursued by people who are testosterone-fuelled and generally physically bigger and stronger than you, and it made me realise how intimidating that must feel sometimes - and more so if you're prone to anxiety, as the OP is (I've experienced fairly severe anxiety in the past and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it's a truly awful, desperate feeling). I've got so much admiration for women, that you cope as well you do in this world.
To the OP, maybe express your feelings to this guy, that his attentions are making you feel more anxious, not less, and that if he really does care about you he'll back off and give you space. If he persists it might be necessary to get the police involved, because you shouldn't have to put up with this.