I found it very interesting and useful, but I have a doubt related to a kind of affirmation.

For example, if you say "I choose to feel that Mary loves me" as the example given, couldn't you be fooling yourself? What if Mary actually doesn't feel the same for you? Wouldn't your feeling be "unreal"?

I see the point of avoiding manipulation, as it would be stated on affirmations such as "I choose Mary to love me" (as another example given on the explanation of the technique), but wouldn't "I choose to feel that Mary loves me" be denying the truth, if the truth is that she doesn't love you?

Thank you for sharing, this might be really useful in order to build up our self-asteem and have healthier relationships!