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Old 17-11-2016, 03:30 AM
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Originally Posted by alfiewhitnell
How do you forgive, deep inside?

I can pretend like I do, but deep down inside me I am still mad at some people for certain things, hurting me, or people close to me.

In my experience, it needs to be processed. This is not a process of denial, or acting out anything. It is allowing the space and freedom and gentleness to hold yourself, to feel your feelings, hear your thoughts, and thereby, through this process of gently watching, and abiding by what is, to heal through a process of genuine karmic transformation.

This is why meditation is a very important part of the Eightfold Path (Right Concentration), it allows a strong basis by which to know how to heal thyself. Physician, heal thyself first. Buddhist practices are very much cathartic, and as one progresses, can transcend the world, but still be of this world. In that regard, it can be useful.

Pema Chodron has some good books on these topics (of hurt) underpinned by a real practice, and she has a good (relatable) writing style.
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