thanks tricia. it's harder for dad as he wouldn't accept she had terminal cancer & had convinced himself she was going to be cured! although she was diagnosed in april & given 18 months to 2 years she actually passed away suddenly 12 weeks into her diagnosis. it was a shock cos she was walking about & laughing & joking the day before & then.....she just went. so we weren't prepared for that at all.
i have a little urn with some of her ashes in & sometimes take her out. lol but not too often cos she always makes me spend lots of money when she's with me!!!!
i feel for you with regards to your mother. it is a great loss & no one can ever tell you different. so my thoughts are with you also.
much love xx