I'm sorry to hear of your loss Debbie
I can not imagine how it must be for you. It's true, we do tend to say 'They are in a better place' but that doesn't take away that feeling of a total void.
My mother is still with me, but her health is failing each passing day, we all prepare ourselves, but, I know how great a loss this can be, a huge part of our life taken from us.
Thinking of you x