I've read the Toa Te Ching before, and respect Toaism a ton. But, I'm not very good with "wu wei" and surrendering. I'm not very good at meditation either. I feel as though if I don't think things out and plan then I will fail. I just went through a really bad break up and almost feel like If I went with the flow it could have been a lot smoother. Any advice, and would you say following these practices improved your life substantially or at least eased physiological pains? Thank you.