Aw Frankie...
But what makes you feel someone else is involved? After all, a Spirit is someone else. But of course you might have your reasons for thinking that, obviously....if you have had involvement with possessive Spirits. But otherwise why should there be a Spirit involved?
These boys may be the wrong type for you. You are probably an attractive woman and they go for that, then maybe sense something else. Maybe they sense a depth to you which they can't measure up to? Or feel you have a need for commitment and love....which they can't respond to?
Maybe you are just weeding out the boys and one day will meet the man.
Whatever you do don't blame yourself. And remember, a good match with another person can be worth waiting for.