Your higher self is in fact just you. Your higher self is also your deeper self, your truer self, your most authentic and unvarnished core. It is (and you are) who you are at centre.
The only reason we may initially perceive of or experience our (higher) selves as things apart from us is perspective. It is that illusion of separation that is real to us until we realise it isn't.
When we in our waking selves allow our true selves (or, who we are at centre) to freely be and do and manifest the authentic love that we are, then we ever more clearly begin to realise that we ARE our higher selves. Put another way, this is who we TRULY are...and this is who we truly are in the process of becoming.
So, first, be the change you seek. Reflect and then work remove those obstacles to unity and integrity within yourself in your day-to-day life.
Let your intent, thought, word and deed manifest authentic love as fully as possible...where you actively seek and support the highest good of the other equally to yourself, and your highest good equally to others.
Then, realise you ARE (becoming) that change you seek
Peace & blessings
7L
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Bound by conventions, people tend to reach for what is easy.
Here we must be unafraid of what is difficult.
For all living beings in nature must unfold in their particular way
and become themselves despite all opposition.
-- Rainer Maria Rilke