Hello
I have learned that if one stays silent then one holds it all inside and nothing changes. It becomes a place of feeling trapped and held in place where there is not growth. We need to be able to communicate so I would wonder what is there that makes him want to do this. There is something that had effected him that he is holding onto.
I know that I lived in fear and took on the role of "duty" for far too long in my first relationship. Now I know that its give and take and communications is key to make things flow. At times its conversations that are hard to have that lead to the most growth.
As Heart and I had both been abused on many levels sexually we had to learn to communicate without words in the same bed. The simplest of touch would make us both ball up in the fetal position out of not "wanting touched" in that way. Waking hours was fine. We had to learn to leave that fear behind and share the bed.
We all have our issues and its with communications we clear them. If he shuts down then keep slowly finding a way to bring it up. As Heart and I are so connected it is hard to hide and hold things from the other but still we at times try to do so.
Too I honestly let it "RIP" as does Heart both having hernia issues we hold excess gas at times. We just laugh it off now. Pressure on the belly cuddling in bed might well lead to being gassed on LOL.
Lynn
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