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Originally Posted by baronesslucy
While it is good to forgive, sometimes it's destructive to stay with or around the person who caused you the pain. I've known women who forgive an abuser and a cheater only to have that same individual repeat the behavior over and over again. The abuser or cheater often see the forgiveness as a way or use it as an excuse to continue their abuse or cheating. Never gets better, only gets worse and it's like a bad cycle that repeats itself over and over again.
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I completely agree with this. This is what I'm having trouble with, sort of. My offender is visiting the family in a couple months and I have chosen to conveniently be going out of town that week. The problem is, his wife is my sister and I don't want to ruffle any feathers. But I'm done with putting myself in uncomfortable situations in order to try to keep the peace.
Thank you, Spirit Carrier for such an elaborate and beautiful response.