Hi Whitewolf. What a lovely dilema you have placed yourself in!! Life is interesting isnt it?

I understand your situation pretty well, actually, and do concur with your concern for asking for someone spacifically in case it takes from their free will, but I just dont think that can happen. You didnt put a spell on him did you?? I am guessing no - not an integral thing to do..... and I think you have heaps of integrity.

It may be as simple as the fact that you have made up your mind to take this relationship to full commitment, and it is YOUR perspective that has changed - thereby changing the dynamic of the whole relationship. I cant comment on this because I dont know what the previous situation was. Just food for thought.

However, taking the view that this guy is the one with the commitment phobia, I doubt you will be able to influence him in anyway that he doesnt want to be influenced!! and good luck to you, my love.

Just as an aside, I would also have to ask, (if he has never shown an inkling of commitment to a formal relationship), what payoff his non-commitment has played in your life. There is always a payoff..... ie, what belief in yourself does this situation reinforce, what does a non-committed relationship allow you, or allow you to be, etc. (I am sure you know the type of things I mean!!). Just food for thought.

From your posts I have read (which I enjoyed BTW), I get the impression that you are a very mature well balanced person who is pretty skilled in manifesting.... but I will ask you one question. Have you worked out WHAT marriage will provide you with, and when you did your manifesting list (or whatever you do), did you articulate these aspects and feeling It has been my experience that doing it this way, (the less prescriptive end result if you will), allows the universe/you to provide the necessary end result in as a creative way as it/you like. I mean just asking for 'marriage partner' might result in a quick wedding and even quicker divorce..... heaven forbid!

I am now 57, long time divorced and been on my own 27 years (with now 2 grown kids). I cant say I have truly had a successful relationship throughout that time....lots of fun and a few marriage proposals have come my way.... but poor loves just didnt cut it - compared to a life of freedom and no compromises.... SO I am really the last person to give advice on marriage. BUT I will say one thing: "dont tell him about it" - that would truly be an act of sabatage!!

I wish you the very best
JEN