I have to admit that if a guy started asking me questions like some of yours on a first date I'd feel as if I was being interviewed, not dated.

There are many things about us that we may choose not to reveal on a first date and if penetrating ones crop up I'd smile and say something like "You have to get to know me a bit better before I tell you things like that."

In the not too distant past I've had guys put questions like "Have you been married?" and "Are you lesbian?" and "Why do you partake in these weird (musical) gigs?" and honestly they tell me more about the person opposite me than they suspect!

"Why" type questions are usually a bad sign. With a male it would come as hints of "I like to be in control."

First dates people usually try to be on their best behaviour which isn't necessarily about being themselves. We have to decide if we want to progress. If all the signs are right, why not?