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Originally Posted by Metafizzypop
No, we never sign on for abuse unless we're masochists. This is another reason I feel people don't pick their families. It's because there are so many children who are subject to abuse from their families. It's not like there's a lesson to be learned from abuse. The only lesson learned is that people can be abusive. We gain nothing from the experience. Who would pick that?
7luminaries, your whole post was wonderfully insightful and comforting and true.
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Glad to hear it Meta
In these situations, we have only to draw boundaries and vote with our feet wherever we are able. It's never on us if parents are abusive. We are only responsible for 1) surviving, if possible and 2) drawing our boundaries (this or that is not acceptable) and leaving the situation as soon as possible, both.
The only lesson to be learnt, ultimately, is to realise 1) that we are NOT responsible for their (abusive, neglectful, etc) behaviour and 2) that we ARE responsible for our own.
Full stop
Love & blessings
7L
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