Stevo...your advice is wonderful for opening the heart to forgiveness and authentic love of the other...where you wish them well and support their best, simply for their own sake and for no other reason. Where you let go of your pain and anger, etc., toward them.
And yes, you can often even heal the relationship in the spirit realm, where most likely they will respond to your gesture of love and kindness in return with love and kindness toward you.
I don't disagree with that.
But true reconciliation on all levels includes our day-to-day reality. It is not separate from or lesser than the spirit realm. However, there are many who choose to act "as if" the spirit realm and the waking realm are separate. That is, there are many who choose to live divided, lacking in integrity. Some do this consciously and deliberately...many do so, in fact. And you cannot force or coerce them to choose otherwise. You cannot love them into choosing otherwise, or by any other means, until they choose to do so on their own.
You cannot heal a relationship of interbeing solely on your own. You cannot override their free will, even with love & blessings
What you can do is heal all that you can on your "side" of the relationship, and you can leave the door open to a fuller healing where both sides freely engage not only in spirit but also in the waking realm.
That much, you definitely can do.
Peace & blessings
7L
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Bound by conventions, people tend to reach for what is easy.
Here we must be unafraid of what is difficult.
For all living beings in nature must unfold in their particular way
and become themselves despite all opposition.
-- Rainer Maria Rilke