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Old 15-03-2019, 03:19 PM
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First, make sure he knows what you want from him. This is to protect him and you. Leading him on brings heartache to both. And to make this clear for him, you need to make it clear to yourself. You said you don't want to be romantically with him, then don't be.
Unfortunately things usually aren't this or that. Great friendships can have physical closeness in them, even in some cases kissing and sex. You just need to be sure (by knowing what you want at that moment) if you want that.
To do something you are not comfortable with out of loneliness or maybe out of the fear of losing him is counter-productive. It's not good for you or him. If one person doesn't enjoy it, usually the other one doesn't either. Weird energy is always Felt by both, or should be if the people are sensitive to those kinds of things.
Loneliness isn't something you get rid of by having people around.
Think of it as food. You need food to keep away hunger and starvation. But, people might also be craiving food when they don't need it. It's called addiction. You never get satisfied no matter how much you consume. The same goes with relationships and loneliness. You need to be happy on your own AND have happy relationships on top of that.
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