Originally Posted by Shawnee
Is it belittling or teasing? My TF teases me all the time & it used to hurt my feelingss sometimes. Then I called him put on it & he said men tease women they like & that's his way of showing "affection". So when he started complimenting me more instead of teasing as much, I knew he loved me, too. Complicated creatures, aren't they?
I have to agree that this could be it (not saying that it definitely is, of course). Both my late uncle and my tf have a type of teasing that they do towards those they are affectionate towards that is downright brutal. It actually comes from a lack of self-esteem on the parts of the men who do this, but it was very evident when observing my uncle and now my twin that the people they love the most get the most ribbing. (Very difficult trait to deal with, imo).