7L,

It is precisely BECAUSE G-d made you a woman that almost any man can be persuaded by you

As for the rest of what you say, I agree that every Jew needs to feel welcome in a Jewish community. It doesn't matter if that Jew eats pork, ignores Shabbat, or has prohibited intimate relations. Every Jew is important and every Jew needs the opportunity to work on his/her relationship with Hashem and not feel excluded by other Jews.

-esther