I don't know if this helps, or if it even makes sense because I haven't figured it out myself but...

I was a college pastor in a large church for many years. My college group was of a particular "quality"... in other words, there was a vibe there, unique to other groups I was familiar with. Years later, I left ministry and managed a marketing team for a home improvement company.

My marketing crew had the SAME VIBE, the same personality, as the college group. I think there is some connection here. It's like we draw people into our lives for a reason. Those reasons are as unique as the people we attract.

Thank you for sharing your story. I find it extremely fascinating.... and psychoslice I'm sorry to hear about your abuses.