[7luminaries]

Originally Posted by angelic star

@ 7L I am really proud of this post. A lot of things that I have been thinking over, has been so well articulated by you on this post. I couldn't have said it better.
At a core level, in the body, in sense of identity and personal needs, men and women are very different. Not really from the soul perspective, as I believe spirit is genderless.
I currently had a very exhausting experience with a male a decade older to me, and it was as if I was dealing with a man child. He thinks women are to cater to his needs constantly professionally and in personal relationships.
He is a very spiritually aware individual, as in if someone says something to him, he knows exactly where their emotions or thoughts/ motives are stemming from. Regardless of this gift he has, his perceptions are not changeable of women in general. He is just that way and no amount of empathy is going to fix that. This is where a lot of women go wrong when they think they can change or fix someone. Some of these men saw their mothers treated poorly by their fathers, and they continue the pattern with their wives and other females. If this is social expectation that it is not okay to think that a person can be owned, as in there is a line when things become unhealthy.
There is a healthy possessive and protection and then there is unhealthy, where you feel you own the other person to limit all their potential and resources. The dynamic does not even always have to be romantic.
Women also need to connect to their heart more and not be lead on by someone because they are taught to be meek, to give/ nurture to emotional needs of another. They need more courage and strength. There are moments when the lines get blurred, and to be able to discern during those crucial moments is very important for spiritual growth and not bearing the brunt of something that later they realize they could not have ventured into. Knowing when to withdraw emotionally. Then it does not become fault of another. So learning to take more responsibility by developing self worth and courage in partnerships. One cannot clap with just one hand.
Thank you for posting this. You said something that I have been thinking to myself.

Hey there Angel and what a great and thoughtful post. I got what you said very clearly and I very much can appreciate what you are saying.

Also thank you so much for the kind words and I'm glad you found something meaningful to you in what I shared.

I have put a lot of stuff out there recently that is very hard for me to say and very hard for others to hear. I feel it is where we are at as a society, and some of this is unavoidable in order to open up some of the discussions.

But because it's difficult, I want to offer my heartfelt apologies for anyone I may have hurt or offended in the airing...because your feelings matter too -- every one of you ,
and I value the thoughts and feelings of all -- even if I was contradicting them and so maybe it looked otherwise.

Peace & blessings
7L