thank, he was a good man :) someone else said it definitely isn't a coincidence and that they don't exist, they're just synchronicities labelled as coincidences - i haven't looked up what he means by that but i might later

yes he definitely changed his priorities, he had always been there for me all the time of course but was also a very very busy man too and back in the day (and i guess nowadays) head honcho bankers were mainly men and would go out drinking all the time, sometimes he wouldn't be home till 1am on weeknights. all that stopped when he got sick and retired, he sold his yacht and stopped going out for a few days on fishing trips etc, he was home a lot more and life became very quiet for him.