Im not sure about this but was curious, though it seems you have thoughts on these cards and they add up to you, and only you know whats best and goes accordingly to you needs, or someone elses, how do we see who is hurt the most, when our own pain is enough to seem more real than others, personally i would deal with my pain before being intangled in others pain, would be like fixing 2 cars with one pair of hands at the same time