DS, I think your last is a general enough statement, and I can broadly agree that it is best and wisest to try to be aware within oneself regarding how and where to spend one's energies and how and where to engage or withdraw, as the situation requires.
Peace & blessings
7L
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Bound by conventions, people tend to reach for what is easy.
Here we must be unafraid of what is difficult.
For all living beings in nature must unfold in their particular way
and become themselves despite all opposition.
-- Rainer Maria Rilke