the behavior seems "normal" to me... perhaps "exemplary"!
the ringing alarm bells are due to
your thoughts and behavior
(beyond the non-focused sobbing, which is it's own issue).
although you've said that you were non-manipulative, it's seeming that you
were indeed attempting to 'pressure' him into altering his schedule for you.
further, you've allowed yourself to use the incident as a means to cast doubt
on his character, and place him in judgment.
my sense of things is that you'd ought to follow your heart's guidance.
do you feel affection for this man? if so, whatever judgments might be
made against him are inconsequential (as i understand relationships).
the head doesn't know a damn thing; the heart is where the truth resides.
