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Originally Posted by jimrich
Sarah, the other thing that I want to mention is, if it turns out that you have repressed, bottled up, hidden bad and angry feelings inside of you that are connected to folks who may have hurt you in the past, it is extremely important to direct your feelings towards those who actually hurt you and NOT towards innocent bystanders like: a spouse, friend, boss, co-worker, pet, furniture, strangers, the government, etc. The damaged and hurt feelings must be released in the direction of those who are guilty of hurting you and not onto anyone or anything that did not hurt you before. It's called the Correct Target. Most hurt and angry folks, take their painful feelings out on the WRONG targets so there is never any resolution or justice for the victim of past abuse. I hope you can see what I am saying here and, if and when you ever do any therapy, please send your unhappy feelings to the correct target - even if you are terribly afraid of or completely loyal to those (parents) who may have hurt you long ago. Once you begin releasing the bottled up anger and sorrow that belongs to the ones who hurt you, you may feel a sense of relief and JUSTICE regarding what happened to you back then and this will open up new and thrilling energy for the balance of your life.
Good luck,
jim
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internalizing bad feelings and accepting them as part of our makeup
will lead us to lash out at undeserving targets and "innocent bystanders".
identifying the true origination of those bad feelings is better.
there is better still i believe.
empowerment of self is what i'm driving at.
choose what emotionally charged thoughts you wish to direct.
to receive love, give love.
to receive love only, give love only.
it is possible to transform ugly feelings within into harmless or beneficial energies.
with the knowledge that people are always doing the best they can,
to the best degree they are capable of, with the tools they have available,
the notion of directing hurtful energies towards them is untenable.
forgiveness is the tool for transforming negative energies.
forgiveness is an internal processing.
once the energy is transmuted, then it can be directed outwardly; radiated.
if a person is new to transmuting energy -- give it to God.
what we are is self determined; no amount of negative energy can wrest
that responsibility from us.
radiate that which you are.
if you choose lovingness, give love.
i think this approach goes a bit further than yours
jimrich.
it doesn't feel possible to find a comfortable middleroad, compromise approach for me.
i sorta sense that all humans are essentially pure love.
to be authentic then, we'll wanna only ever express our true self.
it is, of course, a choice.
we can choose to be non-100% loving, but that feels "lesser" to me.