[Inika]

Originally Posted by psychegrl

Here are my personal opinions since you asked. You, unicorn, tend to tell people information versus sharing a thought (I feel vs you should). The difference is that in sharing you allow others to be heard and telling infers that they are wrong and you are correcting them. It's all about what message you want to have heard not how you say it. Know your audience, especially in a forum like this. Your statement about not being able to help "being a male" feels like an excuse rather than a valid reason for deciding to post 2 hours later. Taking responsibility for the words we say and actions is important. This is something I hear a lot from men of all ages. This could be a great focus for you to help other men on. There is a lot of confusion out there.

This is a subject I've spent a lot of time trying to understand and is apart of my soul purpose to empower women. Here are my thoughts....

Unconditional love means without condition. So you would have no need to be "right" or indulge your ego in telling others what your opinion is. This is actually one of the biggest healing the DM needs to work on (my opinion). Men have told women how to do things but don't realize we have completely different processing, development, and executing styles.

In fact, women usually don't want to be given advice or solutions, we just want to be heard and valued. We can almost always come up with the answers ourselves but we like to talk it out. Share ideas. When we feel like we are being attacked or corrected, about our own feeling especially, that is when the drama that we are all so aware of comes out. This is our part to heal.

Believe me, we ☆☆☆WANT☆☆☆ you, men, to be involved in conversations! We want to hear your thoughts and be engaged with you all. But it can come accross as a directive at times and then you're just another person telling us what to do or how to be.

Balancing the masculine and feminine will help but men need to change how they see women in general. Healing relationships and understanding there is NO one right way in anything (even TF's) and that women's power is not presented in the same way but is still valid.

Empathy is important when talking to people.

@FC and all, my apologies, this is not the place for this conversation. ♡♡♡

I dont want to hijack either and take away from topic. i just wanted to say this is a great post. bang on. hope you menz is taking notes.