Thank you all so much for your replies.
I'm still digesting them all as to how I can personally use/incorporate the advice therein into a personal healing regimen.
Since typing all that up, I've had a few revelations.
The first came to me as I was looking up stuff online and came across Dr. Lissa Rankin. I made a post in the Buddhist forum about it yesterday...so rather than explain what I found and how it all relates to this, I'll just drop that whole post here:
http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...6&postcount=90
I need to rely on my awakening or the enlightened state more, full stop.
This was brought home today, with the understanding that I although I need to be 'grounded' in the 3D world, adapting to my 5D light body must come first and I'm waiting for the next ascension download and upgrade in regards...and it has been a long time coming. lol
http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...&postcount=294
Meanwhile, I just need to 'surrender to my 5D nature' as Melahin suggested and realise that the actions of the 3D world bear no relevance to me whatsoever now, so I shouldn't keep trying to unsuccessfully attach myself to them...and yet, I also need the grounding for my physical body
only because I cannot take this with me.
So constantly reminding myself that I'm not in 3D anymore, so what 3D beings do or not do should have no relevance or make no impact on me...they are just like pictures on a TV screen to me...and that's helping a lot.