I agree with the comment that there are no coincidences. My thoughts are that you have quite possibly spent a past life with the male you are so drawn to. When we encounter someone we have spent a past life with their vibrations are really strong and we feel like we have known them forever. Do you ever feel that anxious feeling in your chest when you are around this male? Also, the messages could have come from his mother, or your guides. There is a reason you went to the death notices, and a reason that he was in your thoughts so suddenly and strongly. I would meditate and speak with your spirit guides and see if they could help you reveal the message or intention.