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Originally Posted by Lorelyen
"Why" type questions are usually a bad sign. With a male it would come as hints of "I like to be in control."
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Must say I see it very differently - for me, 'Why?' questions in the context of relationships are more about delving deeper, they're about creating greater intimacy. I suppose it depends upon the context - 'Why?' questions are to be expected in a therapy session, for example - and in certain situations it
can feel like you're being interrogated (I try not to shine the spotlight in their eyes
too brightly
), but they can also be a great way to penetrate to a person's emotional core, in my experience. Though obviously it's also important to respect people's boundaries, some can feel very threatened by more probing questions (I remember an ex saying to me, 'You're making me feel weird!' when I asked her why she felt a certain way about something - which spoke volumes about her own insecurities, I thought).