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Originally Posted by starnight1
This is my first post on this soulmate/twinflame forum.
I haven't seriously dated anyone for long time cos of my past.
Last year I made a big progress in my spiritual growth and I encountered something too.It gives me a question on soulmate.
Started from a close friend recently stopped talking to me. He and me on a same study group and we r so aligned in the vibration and helping each other also helping others,since he is much younger I v been setting boundary and careful in approaching some sensitive topics. but finally he still told me that he wanted a closer relationship and I told him I just like being an elder sister.
It is not that I don't like him. I do like him and I can feel we had a connection long long before this life. But he is way too much younger and I don't know how to handle this and many other things related too....
This let me think what I really want? where to find my real soulmate in this life?
This is not the first time I encountered a close one....I v met similar situations and even deeper and broke my heart that we couldn't be together for this or that realistic reasons.
My question is, is universe testing me for a lesson and what is it? if not a joke?
it actually makes me sad that this kind of thing keeps happening.....
what is the real purpose for us human to stay here on earth?
I m an old soul, been back on earth many times,
besides, as I keep healing I keep opening heart I feel that I no longer see males as my enemy, I see more and more beauty in them, and it is also horrible I feel I m a universalist , I feel I actually can love all of them......
everyone is a potential soulmate......
some may say, yes, every man is our brother, but soulmate is only one.
but what is the difference?
brother and soulmate r not much different for me....
what shall I do?
sorry for the long story and a bit emotional....
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Can I be honest with you here? I am in a soulmate connection with a man who is twice my age. I'm in my late twenties and he's in his early fifties. So, I know about big age differences
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At first, I was kind of mad at the Universe for connecting us. Especially because I have never felt more love, both for him and from him, than I ever felt from another man before. And, regardless of the love that you feel, you think to yourself "How on Earth is this going to work?!" I've also had a great deal of trauma associated with older men (stemming from early childhood), so that adds to the confusion further.
Age has never bothered me in this connection. I don't know if that has to do with the fact that I'm the younger one or what. For me, I just find that our physical ages are just numbers in the grand scheme of things. After all, how old are we [b]really[b] if we've all been reincarnated several times over? Also, I tend to find my soul to be much older than my physical age, so there's not as much of a disconnect between us as people naturally suspect with a large age difference. I'm sure other people can attest to this differently, sure. But, I've also been attracted to his soul, not the age on his driver's license.
With that being said, I've always been cognizant of the age difference, I've just tried not to let it dictate the connection. We are just friends right now and are taking things one step at a time. Do I worry about how things will be if and when we connect romantically? Sure. But, why put the buggy before the horse? I just know that we care about each other and love each other deeply, and what will happen will happen.
I'm not going to lie. I have often wondered how he felt in regards to the age difference. To be honest, we just haven't talked about it. I have worried about him seeing the age difference as a big obstacle and withdrawing because of that. But, my focus has been just on connecting with him and getting to know him, more so than what obstacles will get in the way, when and if we have a romantic connection. To be honest, I think we're still trying to figure out the dynamics of it all, since the natural flow can often lead to a father/daughter or teacher/mentor dynamic.
I might have missed this part in your post, but did he specifically tell you that he wanted a romantic relationship? Or, has it been assumed on your end? I mean, you can connect with someone deeper without the relationship having a romantic connotation
. I know you said that you want to remedy the friendship, but for him it seems uneasy...what do you mean by that? Do you think that he feels incapable of having just a friendship with you because he does want more romance?
I almost feel like you're denying the connection because you don't want to get close to men. I feel like the age difference is just another factor that doesn't really help the situation (at least in your mind). It sounds like you're on the right path in regards to opening your heart. But, how can you properly embrace a connection when your constantly braced against the world?
IMHO, you can have so many soul connections in this lifetime! Does that thought, in and of itself scare you? Are you afraid that this particular person, may in fact be "the one" or your feelings for him might develop as such? I apologize if I'm posing a lot of questions here, I'm really just trying to gage your thinking...
I think it's important to recognize that no, we don't get a choice in regards to who is and isn't our soulmate. But, all energetic connections are a choice of free will. At the end of the day, the ball is in your court. It's up to you to take the time to meditate, reflect, journal, continue to heal, and figure out what you want.
Please understand that I would be hurt
immensely if my SM were to cut the cord on our relationship. It would hurt me a great deal to do the same to him. But, at the end of the day, I would be so much happier if he were to sit down, talk with me and speak his truth. That to me, is a greater act of love, than staying in a relationship and "leading me on", so to speak. Communication is a beautiful thing in a relationship, use it to your advantage
