I personally agree that it is a trap. But you can't argue with people about it because everyone seems to 'know' that getting what you want is the best thing.
But I have seen time and time again that my own best interests were served, when what I wanted was simply withheld. And looking back at the choices I made, I can't help feeling, if I had been allowed to get what I 'wanted' some very bad things would have happened in my own life. And I would have replicated that out to the lives of others around me.
Same with expecting to get what you 'deserve'. Another similar trap I see people falling into! But again it is inarguable.
I'm currently more able to accept what I get as opposed to expecting to get what I want, and for me at least that is enough.
But as far as going with the flow I can't really do THAT either. Maybe I wanted it too much