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Originally Posted by Saggi
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Basically, I've worked with overcoming Co-dependency and I feel I may be on the verge of relapsing.
My partner (of 9 months) gives me his problems (almost daily) and I offer advice and sometimes I get annoyed if he doesn't take it and he keeps moaning.
I am consumed with guilty feelings about this at the moment, mainly because of the anger. It's my frustration that is causing me to feel angry, yet if he wasn't giving me his problems I wouldn't be feeling this!!
It took me a long time to consider myself and a part of me feels I may lose that!
I've tried just listening, sometimes that can wind me up too, because it's continous and repetetive!
I take time out of the relationship on my say so regularly, this is pointed out, yet I continue to do so.
Sometimes I feel totally drained!
Sorry to offload like this
Love and hugs
Jo
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Hi Jo
9 months and he's getting on your nerves already
. If it was me i wouldn.t cut any mustard and get straight in there and tell him how you feel. I would pick a good moment (when he's not moaning on) and bring it up explaining your frustrations etc, talk through it - he obviously likes to talk! If it doesn't work out i'd move on to phase 2, look at myself and if i'm being loving tolerant patient etc then i would look to see if the relationship is balanced and after if the moaning hasn't stopped i would point out VERY clearly this is not good for me, i am loosing myself here so space is needed. Then i would carry that out, the space bit. Relationships should be free and flowing, happy and loving not uptight and peed off lol. I'd certainly change the channel.