[FairyCrystal]

I'm wondering... This afternoon before he went home again we got to talking about something that hurt him tremendously in the past. Something that still holds a lot of pain for him.
His pain was almost palpable to me, I felt it in my own body and heart, and I was hurting for/with him. It was so intense I had to cry, but I held the tears back. I did hug him, both because I felt he needed it, but since I felt the full whack of his pain, I needed it too.

Then shortly after that we got back to my place for another drink before he'd leave, and I had to cry. It was both because I find it hard to say goodbye, but also because that pain from what'd happened to him was still in my system and needed an 'out'.
He had to leave, more crying, which I don't like as for him that isn't nice, I mean, we had a really great time together, then there's me bawling my eyes out, but I couldn't help myself, I couldn't stop it.

Two and a half hours went by, he was already home again, and suddenly I felt the heaviness of that pain had gone. I felt my normal self again, yes, with the missing of having him around, but not that gut wrenching pain of having lost someone you love (that's what it felt like). That had gone.
Phew, relief, can tell you that! It was far from pleasant, hihi.

I knew what the cause was, and that it had nothing to do with me, but it took me more than 2 hrs to shake it nonetheless.
And I found myself thinking: Do you -maybe sometimes- help transform the other's pain? That's what it felt like to me, that I was transforming his pain, or part of it at the very least. Crying the tears he cannot cry or hasn't cried and thus cause him to still carry that pain with him.

I phoned him to let him know what had been going on with me, cos I know he always feels rotten when I am sad when he leaves. So I explained, asked him if he sometimes feels the same way when I through old pain. The answer, yes.

So the question... do TFs (help) transform each other's pain? I never read about that, although it would make sense. You're so closely connected. And picking up on the other's pain is one thing, not asking about that, you even have that with a non-TF partner. But transforming it is another thing.
Anyone ever read about that?