(and PLEASE take this or leave it as you will, it was just my first 'hit') was that there is a man who is kind and also kind of dreamy who keeps you fro maturing into the wise woman you could be. It isn't that he is a bad man--he's not, he's very good--it's more that the comfort and security is holding you back and allowing you to kind of stay in a kind of daydream.

You have to choose. One way forward sacrifices some comfort but brings wisdom. The other keeps you in a pleasant place indefinitely.