Originally Posted by inavalan

I believe that one error we make when we argue (communicate, disagree) is that we unconsciously (sometimes consciously) disparage (even attack) the person and not the message. This usually weakens our argument (even when we're correct), and most of the times degenerates in more heated arguments than appropriate (even fights).

Imagine how ridiculous looks (is) somebody who does that and is mistaken in his argument. You see that in the media all the time. They purposefully attack the person, to stir a conflict.

I try not to make negative statements against other posters, and only to argue a specific idea, but sometimes I don't even realize when I err. I usually realize what I did when I get a fiery reply, or after I post a fiery reply.