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Empaths often begin their journeys as 'emotional sponges' not only capable of easily identifying emotions in others, but also being very vulnerable to absorbing emotions in others. On one hand this can often create a mutually rewarding motive for the empath to try to help others heal, but on the other hand, it also means that empaths are very vulnerable to absorbing a lot of negative energy and emotion from other people, as well. The path of an empath is one in which they are rather vulnerable, but this vulnerability is what allows them to identify and assist with the deeper needs of others. It is a very beautiful and important part of humanity, but it requires great care. Many of the people throughout history who eventually caused great harm to others, were actually empaths who could not protect themselves and absorbed so much negative energy and emotion that it crushed and eventually warped them. So the first and most significant step is to develop very stalwart boundaries. It is important to be able to grasp on a very deep level that you are not responsible for saving, fixing or controlling (even with good intentions) anyone else. There must be a clear and firm line between you and others, so that you can perceive their wounds and offer healing assistance to them, yet not be breached by them. Being able to take time for yourself, nurture yourself and knowing when to walk away - and doing so - are very important. It is very difficult if not impossible to help a drowning person, when you, yourself, are drowning! The specific type of healing that empaths can offer - and it is rare and much more valuable than it typically gets credit for - is the ability to prompt, listen and understand. This in itself is potently healing for many people, because it is empowering; it gives them the big boost they need to begin completing their own healing process. In psychology, it is often referred to as emotional "validation." You can perceive the person's wounds, which validates the existence of those wounds, and you can understand those wounds, even if you have never had that particular type of wound, yourself. In doing so, you greatly help the other person to not feel so alone anymore, and this is the sort of thing that in some cases and regards can even save lives. You don't need to fix the person, or change them, or anything of that sort. What you have to offer is the significant boost to their will to move forward, so that they can complete a given journey, even though it may be very difficult and painful for them. Naturally this can be greatly applied if one is working with spirits who are trapped in confusion and grief, unable to move on, but it can also be greatly applied to your fellow, living humans.
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