Physical contact is not necessary. Our spirits are always in contact with those we love. Don't let your other family members lay guilt on you. You are doing the best you can.
Your mother understands your situation that is all that matters.
So you may not want to see her in her current condition. Is that a sin or a crime? No. Remember her as you want to remember her. If the other family member has taken guardianship then that is his/her role they have voluntarily accepted. It's not necessarily your role.
I'm sending angels your way to comfort you, your mom. And your family member who has taken guardianship so he/she can open their heart to understanding and love. This is a time to unite not divide.
