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Originally Posted by Greenslade
(1) My mother has advanced dementia and (2) my wife had a brain-bleed that destroyed a part of her brain. What Spiritual solution do you suggest?
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What follows is
speculation that is
based on the
theory that we all, individually and collectively, literally 'create' the 'reality' that we experience. This means that 'outer/'wordly' '
manifest'ations
figuratively reflect 'inner' (
soul-based) beliefs (including 'dilemma'tic
ones) and expectations (includind 'mixed' ones). As 'crazy' as what follows
may sound to you and as delusional as it
may actually be, I offer this for
whatever 'mileage' yu may get by putting this in
your 'gas tank', GS - it is the kind of thing
I 'do' to 'make sense' of and 'guide my decisions' in relation to such kinds of 'hellish' situations:
In the case of (1), I theorize that your mother's
soul chose to 'jump ship', i.e.
it 'gave up' and 'quit' in face of the 'task' of continuing to function response-ably (relationally) speaking in the context of her 'earth' (including you) siutation, No
pejorative 'judgment' here - many (most?) souls are
not fully 'up to the task' of 'handling' being 'in body' in this complex, and in many ways frustrating, 'world'. Here soul simply 'exited' being 'present' without her body actually 'dying'. Why didn't she just 'completely' 'die' 'at once' (chorus: "there must be 50 ways to leave your lover"!)? Who knows? Maybe because she 'feared' 'death'? Maybe a part of
her wanted to
not leave you? Maybe she 'felt' that
you did not want her to 'leave'? Maybe it was a combination of these and maybe other 'reasons'? In a sense, it doesn't matter because there is no way for one to know this
for sure. The
main 'point' is that
you have been
left with the dilemma of having to choose how best to
cope with said situation. Maybe
your soul 'contracted' to '
have to face' this
pre'dreaded' predicament? Maybe
you 'created'
this 'reality' as a 'challenge' to 'have to deal with'
yourself?
The same set of speculations may pertain to (2). The fact that you had
two such
similar 'fate'-predicaments supports the
theory that such 'predicament' of
being left with and
having to deal with not fully functional associates (co-dependents), these
besides all the high-complexity (nightmarish?) 'problematic' situations you have encountered as part of you 'mental health system' related experiences you have had in this lifetime,
was/is a 'challenging'
learning-experience that was/is 'tailored' to what your
soul most needed to 'learn' and, as a result, 'grow' from next (i.e
now).
In my (
theory-based!) view,
only a very 'advanced
soul would have 'lined up' such soul-taxing-n-stressing situation(s) to encounter
as a
learning (coming to conclusions and decisions relating to the moral and practical
limits of interpersonal dependency and responsibility) curriculum.
'We'
can't 'cure' our way (i.e. we
can't personally or
systemically 'fix') our way 'out of' such 'problems', IOW. We are here to
learn from them, as well as to
develop greater faith and trust that
the Life-Force ('in' your mother, your wife, and all those 'psychiatric' cases - in your case)
has the capacity (ultimately at least) to 'take care' of
Itself.
I share the 'agonies' which I project you must have experienced and may still be experiencing - I also confess that I am 'glad' that
my personal life-challenges haven't been as excruciatingly 'drastic' - might have completely 'burned me out'!
