This is a touchy subject. It seems that the response shut down the original poster, who didn't come back. I believe that the OP's post was a cry for help, and we, as a community didn't react compassionately, loving, ... as most of us proud ourselves to be, but righteously and preachy.
We often forget that in most cases is better to be kind, than to be right.
Everything expressed here is what I believe. Keep that in mind when you read my post, as I kept it in mind when I wrote it. I don't parrot others. Most of my spiritual beliefs come from direct channeling guidance. I have no interest in arguing whose belief is right, and whose is wrong. I'm here just to express my opinions, and read about others'.