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im Kind of going to play devils advocate here. We all have triggers for personal changes sure, and I can say that if I look at me as a late teen... I don’t really recognise her and I certainly wouldn’t make all the choices she did!!! BUT to say I’m better than her, when she is me, is not fully accepting myself. SHE made me who I am now, she messed up and I learned from it, I gained tools and experiences that where needed, pleasant or not! So I can reflect on the trigger that made me REALISE I am better than I thought, the trigger that gave me confidence IN myself and confidence to BE myself... but what really made me a better person was ME, all my mistakes, all my regrets, all my experiences good and bad and then having the ability to look at myself clearly and see myself in a different light.
There are enough people out there willing to judge us! Let’s not judge ourselves too! If you want to be a better person it’s because you ARE a good person, think about it! If you wasn’t a good person then why would you even have the desire to be better?? Dream Jo, I have seen you around, all I have seen you do is accept others, you try to relate to people, you show compassion... for everybody but yourself! I don’t know the types of people around you, sometimes a good heart can attract some of the less desirable individuals who will seek to take advantage of your kind nature, but I’m still guessing the only person who believes your not good enough is you, if others are saying that I would guess they have some very dubious motives for doing so! Think of yourself as a little girl, do you think she would say your not good enough?
We are constantly growing and changing but I think our attitude towards ourselves plays such a huge part, events and people are just catalysts for changes, they can make us more aware, teach us lessons... they can have negative effects too, but they can’t really change WHO we are, our behaviour can change, our thoughts can change, but on the inside we are always our awesome wonderful selves, weather we see it or not.
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