I have to respectfully disagree with the comment above. I have said things to my own TF out of ego/fear...because he & I are both bringing up things from.our past that need healing. We had two years of absolute Heaven, then the third year when we did more push-pull out of fear of the intensity.

I like how this article describes why this happens:

http://theeternalbliss.wordpress.com...nflames-argue/