Hi Azuly, the last pendulum I bought I connected with it by laying down and holding the pendulum over my heart chakra, freed my mind and went into a deep meditation and just felt the energy of the pendulum, I did this for hours on many days because I loved the feeling, not expecting that it was improving my connection with it. This pendulum works the best out of all of them and sometimes swings so wide that it hits my arm. So in all I feel its our connection to the pendulum that makes all the difference. Hope this helps x