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Oh, it is very well possible. Thing is that these days certain things do make it more difficult and especially so if people aren't aware of it.
For instance: men have 20% less testosterone these days, even when younger, from 20 yrs onwards.
That means they don't really feel entirely good, whether they're aware of it or not. It also generally means their oestrogen is too high, not balanced anymore by a healthy amount of testosterone.
The issue with that is that when a man spends lovey-dovey time with a woman, his estrogen naturally goes up. Which is why a man after intimacy -including sex- needs some time away from it. That he needs to have his testosterone levels to go up again.
Problem: his test. levels are already low, when with a woman his oestrogen goes up (even higher than it already is) it's going to be difficult.
Then women... many are too much in their masculine energy due to societal demands (work for instance, having to succeed there, make enough money, a career etc). So their natural oestrogen levels aren't as they should be, and too much in testosterone because of these societal demands.
So you get 2 people coming together that aren't at their natural best due to hormones being out of balance.
And you may think "so just hormones, big deal!" but these basically control everything we are. How we act, react, behave, feel, how we make others feel (a masculine energy man isn't going to be attracted to a masculine energy woman as that instinctively doesn't feel good).
Also with movies... many men have porn addiction or watch way too much of it. This also has consequences as even with his low testosterone and high estrogen he can then get aroused and climax. This can be difficult with his hormonal imbalance with a real woman as then the being together makes his estrogen go up, lowering his testosterone even more so he cannot get an erection and can't have sex.
This occurring with a real woman emasculates him, causing another dip in testosterone. If that goes on he simply can't even get aroused with a woman anymore and/or no longer have have sex with one whereas with the actress he can --> porn addiction is born.
Maybe it works in a similar way with romantic movies, especially if maybe your hormones aren't in balance either?
In any case, it is very possible to have a wonderful relationship with a lot of depth and passion and love etc. as long as both parties are balanced and/or aware. Good communication skills are half the "battle", maybe even more so.
Words are so powerful that they can totally emasculate a man, ruin love, kill romance, turn a woman off and whatnot, but also the other side of the coin.
Knowing how to phrase things the right way can help love to blossom and last.
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