May be good, then, to do whatever you need (meditate, reason it out) to give it time for that side of relationship to develop. On the mundane level most people can control their emotions - not always by suppressing them, sometimes by getting things in perspective/rationalising them, which seems to be what you're doing now. Ultimately in this situation, a strong soul connection would manifest as to what extent you'd go to support each other, IMO.