Sapphirez... The best EFT method for releasing these kinds of complex patterns arising from past events is The Movie Technique... choosing an event that comes up easily in your memory and tapping through the scene from beginning to end with all your senses going - seeing what happened, hearing what was said, feeling all the emotions, and so on.
I haven't looked at "Instant Emotional Healing" in some time but I'm sure it has a more full description of the technique.
Once the original event, or several significant events are released you may find the ongoing symptoms of disturbance fading away. If not then you could address each one, or go for tapping through another 'movie'.
If you have more specific questions I'm available in pm.